We were turned down for the house we wanted. The way the owner handled it hit me particularly hard. First she said no and that was fine. I understood that we don't look great on paper and was fine with walking away. Then she came back a couple of days later and said we could have the house with a bit more of a deposit. We said that's fine we would do whatever she needed us to do. The next day she took that offer away. Said she had decided to sell. I think that was a lie and she just had second thoughts. I can't really explain why it hit me so hard but having to tell my daughter that she has to wait to move in was like losing her and her brother all over again. I really struggle with the holidays every year. I was doing ok this year until now.
Maybe I should explain why my big kids live with their dad. Essentially it was because he had the money and thus the power in the divorce. They were with me for four years and then after living with his threat to fight for custody all that time I finally gave in and let him have them. It was the lesser evil. He wasn't a bad father but hated me for leaving and wanted control.
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lupa- i'm really sorry to hear about this. i also know about what it's like to struggle with custody issues and not get to live with your kids. it's hard.
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Hi Lupaloo
I hope that you find a good home soon!